“Genuine curiosity is the precursor to understanding.” - James Clear
What happens when we stop giving answers and start asking thoughtful questions?
Engaged teams aren’t driven by certainty, they’re built on curiosity. When leaders choose to ask instead of tell, they make space for others to think more deeply, feel seen, heard and valued. Curiosity signals a desire to shift from control to connection, encouraging people to take initiative and contribute more meaningfully.
The subject of curiosity received a whole chapter in my book Understood. That is because I;ve seen first hand how it aligns people, opens possibilities, and invites the kind of insight that can't be forced. It also contributes to psychological safety because when we ask questions with genuine interest, we send a message: I care what you think. I believe in what you have to offer. Your voice matters here.
So how can we lead more curiously in the day-to-day? Well, how about trying a little experiment. Ask these questions on a weekly basis:
What’s one thing that’s going well for you and/or this project right now?
(Starts with strengths and builds trust)Where are things feeling stuck or stretched?
(Opens the door to honest reflection without judgment)What is something you think we should be paying more attention to?
(Surfaces insights leaders may not see)What kind of support would make a difference for you and/or this project this week? (Encourages proactive, personalized care)
What’s something you’d like to try or explore?
(Signals psychological safety and fuels growth)
While you're experimenting try to be really present. Notice what shifts. Not just in what people say, but in how they show up.
Curiosity builds connection. It makes space for contribution. And it’s one of the quietest, most powerful ways to help people feel understood.
I’d love to hear how your experiment goes. Send me a note on Instagram or LinkedIn about what you learned.
Until next time,
Maria